By Jan Vicente B. Pekas
How we act outside can be vastly different to how we act when we are at home. Due to different reasons such as our positions or occupations, our circumstances demand that we behave in certain ways. You don’t often see an office worker behave how they would in the comforts of their homes.
To act with complete honesty in a social setting is a completely different matter. Without restraint many of us can let ignorance offend/hurt someone. Through words alone we can destroy friendships and connections with people. Sometimes it is better to put in the effort of holding back.
Thankfully, at the end of the day, we can return to our sanctum, around people we can be comfortable with. With our family we can take off most of our “persona” we have been wearing throughout the whole day. After all, these people already know who we are.
People have their own people they can share experiences with. And not everyone can be completely honest with their families, especially teenagers. In one of the more complicated parts of life, a person’s teenage years can be filled with more questions than answers. All this while learning how to adapt in different environments.
Some young people even designate close friends who are similar to them in age easier to talk to. They already know what their parents would say if they confessed to all their doings. And it would be better to enter conversations knowing you won’t finish it up with some yelling.
It can get tedious having to survive in an environment we can’t be somewhat honest of our feelings. It would be like working a job 5 days a week that we hate.
Because we always find ways, we learn how to cope with it. We spend more time instead with people around work that we are comfortable with. No one wants to, unless forced, spend their precious days having to put up with others they are not compatible with.
We all want to live with as much honesty as possible. Without our own mind’s trickeries, we can go for that job we actually like.
Living in a society means we have to conform to the rules. Compromise to a level that we don’t disrupt everyone else.
There is always room for passion to flourish. The timing of it may be vague as it could possibly be, but there is a door for all of us that continues whatever our young, naïve selves have dreamed of in the past.
Honesty with everyone and to ourselves can help us to correct the glaring mistakes. And it would be a life without much burden to drag us down. Only true ideals with pure intentions that weigh as light as feathers.**
